|Compassion is the best lubrication, ever! |
Compassion is the best lubrication in times of friction. When you feel compassion, you are in a healthy state of being. Without compassion and understanding, your relationship will suffer great deal of damage. Compassion is your shield against the rough edges of personalities. When you heart goes out to another person, warm and kind feelings arise that can fill our hearts and mind. When people act defensive and counterproductive, that is because they are in an insecure state. When you witness, these defensive behaviors, you can send your compassion to your partner instead of feeling resentment and defensiveness. Instead of focusing on the behavior, see beyond the behavior into the troubled state of mind that created it. Your understanding and compassion will help your partner feel more secure and rise his/her spirit. Compassion is the recognition that we all get effected by our low moods and negative thoughts. Your partner will show less frailty in the face of your compassionate response.
Your thoughts alone can cause incompatibility
Our thoughts create our feelings, and our feelings will determine how we will respond to another. We all really want the same things; to be close to our partner and enjoy a sense of closeness and affinity. When you feel close to your partner, even dissimilar values can be seen as complimentary. Emotional connections and warm feelings give people a positive outlook. Closeness in your relationship brings out the best in each person and inspires both partners to attend to the needs that are important to their mate.
When thoughts of incompatibility crosses your mind, it signals you are in a low mood. If you were in a high mood, you may see those differences as interesting and even endearing. When you feel close to your partner, you will entertain how compatible you are. Today’s incompatibilities were yesterday’s refreshing differences. These differences represent an opportunity in which we can learn from each other.
Raise your mood when you feel your incompatibilities through doing some individual self-work, such as exercising, playing music and dancing, cooking and making something delicious, taking a walk, meditating and doing some breath work, journaling about how you can understand your partner and your own feelings better. Pay attention to how your feelings change about your partner once your mood improves.
The worse time to communicate is when you are feeling down
I have made this mistake countless times. When my spirit was low, I was most compelled to talk about things with my fiancé and it lead to the worse conversations. If your mood is low and something in the relationship is off track, it is the worse time to talk about things! The quality of your relationship will drastically decrease when you communicate during times of distress. This is because your communication will include low feelings that can hurt your union. The strength of your relationship is based upon the amount of the good will you have for one another. Every time you speak with your partner with ill feelings, you are weakening the strength of the relationship. When you communicate from the state of anger, sadness, or happiness, what you say can only be understood within the context of that state of mind.
Your level of closeness is your moment to moment measure of the progress of the conversation. There is no progress, if your discussion alienates its parties. Use your level of warm feelings towards one another as a compass to assess how well your discussion is progressing. If after few minutes, you feel closer to your partner, you are on the right track. If you feel distant, stop, and tell your partner you will discuss this when you have enhanced your mood by doing some self-care work.
Conflicts occur when we are in a low mood
There is an evident connection between low moods and relationship dysfunction. When our mood is low, our thinking is negative and that is reflected on our perceptions and feelings in the moment. If you trust those negative feelings in that moment, your life will turn for the worse.The best way to help a person who is in low mood is through compassion and understanding. If you can maintain your sense of wellbeing, your partner will be able to connect with your calm energy for support. If you try to coax your partner out of it, you are likely to end up in low mood yourself. Remember that nothing needs to be done for a low mood. Moods are like clouds, they come and go. When your partner is in a low mood, don’t hold anything they say against them or argue. Be understanding of their low mood and stay out of their way. When your own mood is low, engage in self-care, visualization, and cultivating compassion. Your mood can change at any moment, let it come and go.
Be well, be compassionate and love unconditionally,
Dr. Tara Rasta
Hello Beautiful people,
I have been studying viruses, and different ways that you can boost your immune system in regards to novel Covid-19. I have studied researches from doctors all over the world and I have gathered the most important information that you can use to boost your immunity against novel covid-19. Unfortunately, no integrative measures have been validated in human trials. However, this is the time to be proactive. Using available in-vitro evidence, an understanding of the virulence of COVID-19, as well as data from similar, but different, viruses, these are some recommendations from Western & Eastern doctors who are interested in nutrition and natural ways to boost immunity.
Again, we stress that these are supplemental considerations to the current recommendations that emphasize regular hand washing, social distancing, stopping non-essential travel, and getting tested if you develop symptoms.
While the pathogenicity of COVID-19 is complex, it is important to understand the role of inflammation in this disease. The virulence and pathogenicity (including acute respiratory distress syndrome) associated with SARS corona viruses develops as the result of viral activation of cytoplasmic NLRP3 inflammasome. This inflammasome within activated (upregulated NFkB) macrophages and Th1 immune cells releases proinflammatory cytokines, namely IL-1B and IL18, which dictate the pathogenic inflammation responsible for the virulence and symptoms of COVID-19. For the purpose of making this easier for you to understand, I will refer to the above cytokines as inflammatory molecules
- Adequate sleep: Shorter sleep duration increases the risk of infectious illness. One study found that less than 5 hours of sleep (monitored over 7 consecutive days) increased the risk of developing rhinovirus associated cold by 350%. Important to COVID-19, sleep deprivation increases your inflammatory molecules in comparison to adequate sleep, which also ensures the secretion of melatonin, a molecule which may play a role in reducing coronavirus virulence (see Melatonin below).
- Stress management: Psychological stress disrupts immune regulation and is specifically associated with increased pro-inflammatory cytokines. Various mindfulness techniques such as meditation, breathing exercises, guided imagery, etc. reduce stress, reduce these inflammatory molecules.
- Zinc: Coronavirus appear to be susceptible to the viral inhibitory actions of zinc. Zinc may prevent coronavirus entry into cells and appears to reduce coronavirus virulence.Typical daily dosing of zinc is 15mg – 30mg daily with lozenges potentially providing direct protective effects in the upper respiratory tract.
- Vegetables and Fruits +/- isolated Flavonoids: Many flavonoids have been found, in vitro, to reduce the inflammatory markers associated with pathogenic infections.Some of the specific flavonoids which have been shown to have this effect, and which can be found in the diet and/or dietary supplements include:
- baicalin11 and wogonoside12 from Scutellaria baicalensis (Chinese skullcap);
- liquiritigenin13 from Glycyrrhiza glabra (licorice)
- dihydroquercetin14 and quercetin15 found in onions and apples
- myricetin16 found in tomatoes, organs, nuts, and berries
- apigenin17 (found in Matricaria recutita (Chamomile), parsley and celery.
At least 5 – 7 servings of vegetables and 2-3 servings of fruit daily provide a repository of flavonoids and are considered a cornerstone of an anti-inflammatory diet.
• Vitamin C: Like flavonoids, ascorbic acid inhibits inflammatory activation. Clinical trials have found that vitamin C shortens the frequency, duration and severity of the common cold and the incidence of pneumonia. Typical daily dosing of vitamin C ranges from 500mg to 3000mg daily with even higher doses utilized during times of acute infection.
• Melatonin: Melatonin has been shown to inhibit NFkB activation and NLRP3 inflammasome activation. In fact, the age-related decline in melatonin production is one proposed mechanism to explain why children do not appear to have severe symptoms and older adults do. Melatonin also reduces oxidative lung injury and inflammatory cell recruitment during viral infections. Typical dosing of melatonin varies widely from 0.3mg to 20mg (the latter used in the oncological setting).
- Sambucus nigra (Elderberry): There is preclinical evidence that elderberry inhibits replication and viral attachment of Human coronavirus NL63 (HCoV-NL63), different than COVID-19, but a member of the coronavirus family. Sambucus appears most effective in the prevention or early stage of corona virus infections.
- PLEASE note, Elderberry significantly increases inflammatory cytokines, including IL-B124 so should be discontinued with symptoms of infection (or positive test).
- An evidence-based systematic review of elderberry conducted by the Natural Standard Research Collaboration concluded that there is level B evidence to support the use of elderberry for influenza, which may or may not be applicable to COVID-19 prevention. Typical dosing of 2:1 elderberry extract is 10mL -60mL daily for adults and 5mL-30mL daily for children.
• Vitamin D: In certain conditions, vitamin D has been found to decrease inflammatory activation However, 1,25(OH)vitamin D has also been found to increase some inflammatory molecules during the course of infection, and should, therefore, be used with caution and perhaps discontinued with symptoms of infection.
DURING SYMPTOMS OF INFECTION OR POSITIVE TEST FOR COVID-19 you are advised to avoid the following :
- Sambucus nigra (Elderberry)
- Polysaccharide extracts from medicinal mushrooms
- Echinacea angustifolia and E. purpurea
- Larch arabinogalactan
- Vitamin D
The following products are Likely Safe: Other commonly used natural immunostimulatory and antiviral agents including the following do not appear to increase inflammatory molecules a part of their immunomodulatory actions. Several of these, in fact, reduce these cytokines and may restore immune homeostasis. These are, therefore, likely safe to use both prior to, and during, COVID-19 infection. Whether these agents mitigate the symptoms or virulence of COVID-19 is unknown and therefore the benefit of these agents during COVID-19 infection is unknown.
• Allium sativum (garlic)
• Astragalus membranaceus
• Full mycelium mushroom extracts
• Mentha piperita (peppermint)
• Vitamin A [scientific study found that 25,000iu daily for 4 months in 84 women resulted in lower serum IL-1b and IL-1b/IL-4 ratios in obese women. Oral vitamin A can causes hypervitaminosis A especially at doses greater than 25,000 IU daily for more than 6 years or 100,000iu daily for more than 6 months Monitoring liver function tests for hepatotoxicity during vitamin A dosing of any duration, even at lower doses, is advised given variable individual sensitivity.
• Vitamin C: the information and understanding of COVID-19 continues to change rapidly. We encourage you to make integrative recommendations carefully and with consideration of the underlying mechanisms of both the COVID-19 infection and the intended intervention. It is also important to reiterate that there are no clinically evidence-based integrative prevention or treatment strategies for COVID-19 infection.
These are just some educational information, if you have any questions, call us 714-679-8608 for your consult or ask your doctor for his/her recomendation.